Thinking about Skipping the Funeral?

Thinking about Skipping the Funeral?

Posted on July 10, 2020 by Allen McMullen | Leave a comment
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Are you considering going to a funeral? Will you be a guest or, are you the survivor in charge and deciding if there will even be a funeral? Either way, before you just skip the funeral perhaps you should consider how elephants behave when one of their species dies. Perhaps we have something to learn from Dumbo. First of […]

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Too Little Too Late - A Memorial Gone Wrong

Too Little Too Late – A Memorial Gone Wrong

Posted on June 5, 2020 by Allen McMullen | Leave a comment
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Yesterday, Jane was on duty as a tour guide at a lovely little pre-revolutionary war church in rural Virginia. It was late in the afternoon when a youngish woman wearing shorts and a Cubs ball hat stepped into the visitor’s center looking lost. Thinking that she might need directions, Jane quietly approached to offer her […]

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Preserving the family relationship while planning a funeral

We all love in very different ways: Preserving the family relationship while planning a funeral

Posted on March 20, 2020 by Allen McMullen | Leave a comment
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You are with someone with whom you share some history. Maybe it’s a brother, sister, or a childhood friend. You are talking about an event from the “old days” and you suddenly realize you all remember the event a little differently. Most of us have had this experience. Our relationships work in a similar fashion. […]

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Do I really need to attend the funeral?

Do I really need to attend the funeral?

Posted on March 13, 2020 by Allen McMullen | Leave a comment
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Your presence is important. If there is any way possible, please, just be there. When a child is born it is a life changing event for the parents, siblings and grandparents at the very least. It may also be a life changing event for the kindergarten teacher five years in the future. Bottom line, life […]

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Where should I send my condolences?

Where should I send my condolences?

Posted on March 6, 2020 by Allen McMullen | Leave a comment
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Condolences do matter and timing is important.   Do not put off contacting your friend to express your sympathy. Options and opportunities may have changes over the decades, but the importance of reaching out to those suffering a loss has not. A call or a written note is always just right. Social media is just […]

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